Redefining Healing and Spirituality: The Real Path to Authentic Embodiment

Healing and spirituality have become buzzwords in today's wellness landscape, filled with countless modalities, books, and courses. I have explored them all—immersing myself in healing circles, reading all the books, and taking all the courses to understand what spirituality really means for me. And here I am today, speaking to you from my personal experience as an embodied being with my own unique perspective on this journey.

Spirituality, to me, is not about unicorns, ascended masters, or angels. It's not about escapism or attaching yourself to fictional narratives to feel validated. If those elements resonate with you, I'm not here to discredit that—everyone has the right to express their spirituality in whatever way feels authentic to them. But for me, spirituality is about showing up in the present moment, operating in alignment with my truth, and being my most authentic self—not some version that aligns with someone else's idea of spirituality. That's where the true power of your agency lies.

What It Means to Be Spiritual

Being spiritual, in my view, means embodying your personal truth in the present moment. It's about recognising that you are the vessel for universal energies and taking responsibility for your energy without outsourcing your power to mythical entities. Spirituality is about being grounded in who you are, right now, and allowing that authenticity to speak for itself. 

Some people prefer to channel energy through stories of angels or unicorns—and if that empowers them, that's great. But for me, I see it as a distraction from what really matters—being present, taking responsibility for your energy, and acknowledging that you are the powerful being capable of transforming your own life.

There is no right or wrong way to be spiritual, but there is a difference between escapism and embodiment. Spirituality is not about external validation or adhering to someone else's idea of what it means to be "spiritual." It's about doing the inner work, even when it's uncomfortable, and being honest with yourself about who you are and what you need. It's about showing up in the everyday moments, whether they are mundane or magical, and living in alignment with your values and truth. It’s about making choices that honour your soul and support your growth, even when no one is watching.

When I began my journey, I heavily leaned on the word 'healing.' I called myself a healer, I marketed my services as healing, and I viewed my work through that lens. As time has passed, I've grown more distant from the term. Healing has become an overused and often misunderstood concept—and while it serves its purpose, I find myself questioning what it really means.

In my opinion, the word 'healing' often implies that something is broken, that there is something wrong with you that needs fixing. But here's the truth: nothing is inherently wrong with you. You might have behaviours or beliefs that are no longer serving you, but that doesn't mean you are broken. Healing isn't about fixing; it's about evolving, embodying, and stepping into your power in a more conscious way. It's about looking at all the parts of yourself—the light and the shadow—and choosing to operate with them all, holistically. It's about understanding that your past, your wounds, and your scars are part of your story, but they do not define where you're heading. Healing can be about reclaiming your power from the narratives that have kept you small and choosing to write a new story for yourself. It's about recognising that you are already whole, even if there are parts of you that need extra care and attention. Healing is not a destination; it’s a process, an ongoing journey of self-discovery and growth.

This perspective shift is why I use 'healing' mostly for SEO these days—to play the game and reach those who are still searching for it on Google and social media. But the work I do is no longer about fixing; it's about empowerment, embodiment, and helping you find the alignment within yourself. Healing is a natural process. Just as your immune system knows how to heal a physical wound, your energy knows how to find balance—sometimes, you just need a little guidance to get there.

Healing also requires us to step out of the victim mentality. It's easy to feel powerless when we are faced with our wounds, but true healing comes when we take responsibility for our lives and our energy. This doesn’t mean blaming ourselves for everything that has happened to us—it means recognising that we have the power to choose how we respond, how we move forward, and how we want to live. It’s about owning our story, not as a victim but as the author. The moment you decide to take ownership of your healing, you reclaim your power, and that is where true transformation begins.

Spirituality vs. Healing

One of the biggest issues I see today is that spirituality and healing have become conflated. Spirituality is not about endlessly chasing healing, and healing is not the destination that makes you spiritual. Spirituality is about being fully present in your own experience, accepting yourself as you are, and choosing to operate in alignment with your truth.

When we look at the wellness industry, we see gurus and thought leaders portraying an image of being fully 'healed,' as if they've reached some magical destination where everything is perfect. That's not reality. The truth is, we're all evolving, all the time. Spirituality is about embracing that ongoing journey without feeling like you need to be fixed to be worthy of it. It's about understanding that you can hold both light and shadow and that both are equally valuable in your growth.

Healing is a tool, a process that helps you shed the layers that no longer serve you, but it’s not the measure of your spirituality. You can be spiritual without being fully healed because spirituality is about connection—connection to yourself, to others, to the universe. It’s about recognising the divinity within you and within all things and allowing that awareness to guide your actions. Healing is just one aspect of the human experience, and while it’s important, it’s not the entirety of what makes someone spiritual. You don’t have to be “perfect” to be spiritual—you just have to be willing to show up as you are.

The Problem with Labels

Labels can be helpful—they help us understand concepts, communicate ideas, and navigate the world. But when it comes to spirituality and healing, labels can also be incredibly limiting. When we label ourselves as 'broken' or in need of healing, we put ourselves in a box that can be hard to escape. We start seeing ourselves through the lens of what's wrong rather than what is.

The same goes for the spiritual labels people attach to themselves. I've seen many people label themselves as 'high priestess,' 'goddess,' or 'healer,' and while I understand the desire to feel empowered, I also think there's a risk of getting lost in these titles. It's easy to hide behind a label, to use it as a shield rather than showing up as your true self. At the end of the day, you are a human being, and that's powerful enough. You don't need a title to prove your worth.

The Path of Embodiment

The interplay between spirituality and healing ultimately comes down to embodiment—the choice to show up in each moment authentically and aligned with your personal truth. It's about understanding your personal agency and using it to engage with the present moment. It's about embracing your journey with all its ups and downs, light and shadow, and being fully yourself without apology.

Embodiment is about living your truth, not just talking about it or aspiring to it. It's about making your values visible through your actions, showing up in your authenticity every day, even when it's hard or uncomfortable. It's about fully embracing who you are and letting that guide your choices and interactions.